Thursday, September 30, 2010

Love and Loss

By Lucy Valentine

Love and loss often go hand in hand.

I deal with both on a daily basis. With my consulting work through the Massachusetts State Police, I help solve missing person cases. People who are loved—and who are lost. There are some cases that have happily ever afters--but not many.

With my job at Valentine Inc., my family’s matchmaking business, I locate people who are loved—and who are lost. Most cases have happily ever afters--but there are some that do not.

With my own life, I’ve been lucky enough not to have lost anyone close to me, though I worry about the love of my life, Sean Donahue, on a daily (sometimes hourly) basis, thanks to his health problems. The thought of losing him has almost sabotaged our relationship a number of times. But I’m stubborn. And I love him. And the combination is almost enough to keep the worry at bay. (Almost.)

Despite the concerns, I’ve chosen to live for the moment, to follow that old saying that it is better to love and lose than never love at all. More importantly, to believe it.

It’s the only way to really live, don’t you think?


From Heather:

This post was tough to write, as it came on a day when news broke that one of our own, Kate Collins, lost the love of her life.

You may have seen that Kate (along with Sheila and Laura) have new books out this month, but as Kate’s going to be unable to self-promote for a while, we’re doing an extra push for her in this difficult time. Promoting a book should be the last thing she’s worrying about right now.

If you're wondering how to help or convey your regards, we’re asking you to please consider buying a copy of Dirty Rotten Tendrils for yourself and perhaps a second copy for someone you care deeply about or even a library you love in honor of her husband. It is the best way for us all to show our support right now.


  1. A beautiful post--and absolutely true. I was so sad to hear the news about Kate's husband. Buying books in his memory and to support Kate is a wonderful idea.

  2. Lucy, you're a wonderful person, just like your author, Heather.

  3. A wonderful post. I will be buying two such sad news at this time. This is a great idea and I will pass it on.

  4. Count me in as buying more than one book and spreading the news of her latest release.

  5. I'm honored to be part of a community that immediately rallied to help Kate--writers and readers alike. It gives me warm and fuzzies.

    I have to say, it was Jennifer Stanley who came up with the idea of buying two books--and I'm so glad the idea caught on and is being spread by others. It's the perfect way for us to help Kate and give tribute to her husband (who was her biggest fan).

  6. Thank you, Lucy and Heather for sharing. I'm off to make a purchase to Kate.

  7. To see a community rally together in support of another member is wonderful. I will be buying several copies of Kate's book, as well as sending prayers her way.

  8. Thank you, Heather, and Jennifer too. It helps to have something we can do for Kate at this horrible time in her life. I've just bought a few copies, and I'll be distributing them.

  9. Touching post. I will be purchasing my book and a few extras to give to friends.

  10. Dear Lucy&Heather You have so much in common..Compassion.I feel so lucky to have met both of you..My Sympathy to Kate Best,Susan S

  11. Lucy, you are such a wonderful character. I can hardly wait for the next book in the Valentine Series.
    Heather, thanks for your suggestion. I will purchase several copies of Kate's new book to give as Christmas presents.
    My thoughts are with Kate, her family and all of you at Cozy Chick who are Kate's close friends. She is going to need your support now more than ever.

  12. Big, big thank yous to all of you! Like I said, warm and fuzzies. :) ((((Virtual hugs))))