Wednesday, January 12, 2011
The First Five Minutes
MARY KENNEDY, writing as Dr. Maggie Walsh from STAY TUNED for MURDER.
My producer, Vera Mae, says she can tell in the first thirty seconds whether or not someone is going to be a scintillating guest on my radio show, or dull as dirt. Vera Mae even has a T-shirt that says, "I always make snap judgments. It saves time."
I asked her what her secret was. She says it's a combination of observing their body language, their smile, their eye contact and their handshake. And of course her "gut instinct" which is legendary around WYME. This is an idea that's been around for a long time. Remember Julius Fast and his book on body language, How to Read a Person like a Book? And now we have Malcolm Gladwell and BLINK, explaining that we instinctively sum up a person and decide whether or not they are likable, trustworthy, someone we would want to know.
Do you find yourself doing this? Do you feel an immediate attraction (or aversion) to someone and you're not even sure where it comes from? Sometimes it all happens on an unconscious level, and as Malcom Gladwell says, "in the blink of an eye." Are you usually right or wrong?