Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Family Ties...Or Should I Say Nooses?



--Violet Armstrong, from Gayle Trent’s Murder Takes the Cake

Do your family members drive you up the wall? Mine do! Oh, I don’t mean my precious twins, Leslie and Lucas, or my wonderful husband. At least, not at the moment. Right now, I’m talking about my sister Daphne.

Thanksgiving is coming up, and I could really do without all the drama. I’m having Daphne and my parents over, and I’m dreading it. Daphne and Mom mix about like oil and water. Daphne is suspicious of everything Mom says, and she looks for hidden meanings behind every single word. Of course, Mom doesn’t make it any easier for Daphne. But Mom is old and set in her ways. I expect Daphne to take the high road.

You see, when Daphne divorced her husband Todd, Mom was pretty disapproving. Granted, Todd had taken a shot at Daphne…and I don’t mean a verbal shot—he actually took a gun and shot at her! He missed, thank goodness, and is now in prison, and I support Daphne a hundred percent in her decision to leave the slime ball. But Mom thought Daphne should give the guy another chance. To Mom, divorce is a last resort, they should’ve gone to counseling, Todd could’ve tried anger management, blah, blah, blah.

Again, Mom is old and set in her ways. I take what she says with a grain of salt and move on. If I don’t agree with something she says, I simply ignore it, you know? Not Daphne. She will stand at Mom’s graveside and argue with her as they lower the poor woman into the ground.

And now Daphne has uncovered a diary that has dredged up a dirty little secret. Mom’s dirty little secret. I keep telling Daph to leave the past in the past. That’s like telling a zebra that stripes are out this season—it doesn’t make one iota of a difference.

Do you dread your family get-togethers? Or do you actually look forward to them?

13 comments:

  1. That is shaping up to be one interesting Thanksgiving!

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  2. Sisters! I could really do without mine asking about my non-existent love life every time I see her... and that's a lot, since we co-own the family house.

    But I think your Mom needs a hint to lay off your sister's case... my ex-bf just left me... at least he didn't shoot at me!! She's better off without him.

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  3. I love family gatherings but do have friends who totally agree with you, Violet. Hope you can keep things on an even keel, at least through Thanksgiving.

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  4. I love my family to pieces. But my aunts can be overbearing at times. Aunt Willow is the free-spirit of the family. She's always pushing me to do more while Aunt Alba is convinced everyone is out to get me. Makes for exhausting family gatherings sometimes.

    Unfortunately, you can't control your sister. It's probably best if you step back and stay out of the line of fire this Thanksgiving. Good luck!

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  5. Wow! That would be a dramatic dinner to witness - from behind bulletproof glass. Thanks for supporting your sister. Your mom may mean well, but she's way off base with this.

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  6. Diaries. Can't write in 'em, can't help but write in 'em. Good luck! I love family dinners...so much colorful and spicy dish!

    ~Avery
    AveryAames.com

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  7. I can relate! In my family, we usually set up tables in 2 separate rooms; one is for adults and one for the kids. But the kids table is a convenient place for someone to go who needs to cool off. Under the pretext of "keeping an eye on the kids", we can separate 2 warring family members for a while. Might work for you too...

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  8. I thoroughly enjoy family get-togethers. Even when things go wacky as they sometimes do, it makes for great stories later.

    BTW- I love stories with diaries and dirty little secrets!

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  9. My family doesn't get together much but I love it when we do. It's the other non-family family gatherings that I'm not fond of.

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  10. My family is completely wack-a-doo. Someday I'll tell you about my grandma and my cousin fighting over the definition of "crack whore". I kid you not.

    But mostly I enjoy our get-togethers. They can drive me nuts, but they're so entertaining ....

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  11. Love my family but love my fictional get-togethers so much more! I'm currently writing a Christmas-themed book. Let the fruitcakes fly!

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  12. I love stories about family get-togethers! : )

    ~ Krista

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  13. Family get-togethers can be a lot fun, but sometimes "the more-the-merrier" is too much for me. And I could do without clashing opinions and ruffled feathers...

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