Saturday, January 21, 2012

Redesigning Me

By: Jaymie Leighton
From: The Vintage Kitchen Mystery Series
Author: Victoria Hamilton
Book 1 Title: A Deadly Grind
Pub. Date: May 2012
Did you ever take a hit to your self esteem so hard it knocks you flying? That's what happened to me a couple of weeks before Christmas. Joel, who I thought was the love of my life, dumped me. Just... dumped me. I had no clue why until last week when I learned that he has been shacking up with some new girl in Queensville, someone he just met a few months ago.

I'm so mad... I feel like I was taken in, and I'm hurt. But now I want to get on with my life, except I realized that what is missing in my life is a sense of purpose. But how do you go about finding a sense of purpose? My Grandma Leighton, who I spent a lot of time with over Christmas, said I needed to look inside myself at what excites me, what makes me happy, what gets me going in the morning.
So I did some soul searching. That, and some literal searching. I got up in the attic of the family house and dug around in old boxes and trunks and came across a whole bunch of my grandma's old cookbooks and recipes. My complete absorption in them--I don't usually pay that much attention to anything written unless it's a new Mary Balogh book--showed me the way. It was what Oprah calls an 'aha' moment.

I love old cookbooks, and old kitchen vessels and utensils, and everything old connected with the kitchen. I've been collecting for a couple of years, but it is now my mission to transform the kitchen of my house into a showcase for all the stuff I love so much. I also have another goal in mind, but I think I'll just keep that card close to my chest for now.

I've moped around for too long; now it's time to rejoin life! I'm only 32, and there are better fish in the sea, right? At least, that's what Grandma says.

So... have you ever taken that kind of body blow, the hit to your feeling of self-worth or self-esteem so hard it feels like a physical punch in the stomach? What did you do to recover, and what would you do differently now?

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  1. Ouch, Jaymie. When he didn't join you for Thanksgiving, I kind of wondered. The vintage kitchen stuff sounds like lots of fun!

  2. I love vintage anything! Very cool :-)

  3. I think at one time or another we all get slammed like you have. The thing is to remember it's the other guy's problem, not yours. It's his opinion and action, not yours. You are just fine. Go on and be who you are, let him go. You do not need this in you life. And of course retail therapy always works wonders.

  4. Yeah, Willow, I guess I should have known. Color me naive!

    Kari... me too!

  5. Sounds like you're on the right track, Jaymie. I've heard the best revenge is a happy life!

  6. Duffy... retail therapy for me is a vintage store or thrift shop... nice and cheap!

    Erika... I don't intend to let him or his new girlfriend ruin my life, but Queensville is such a small town. I dread running into them.