Sunday, January 20, 2013

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places



Humphrey Brown blogs for


the Domestic Diva Mysteries


by Krista Davis




You know what's coming up? Valentine's Day. What's worse than not having a date at midnight on New Year's Eve? Not having anyone on Valentine's Day. A whole day of being reminded that I'm still single. People think men don't worry about these things, but well, I'm lonely. Isn't life more fun as a couple? I wouldn't know . . .

I'm not the best looking guy in the world. I'm not tall or dark, and only my mother thinks I'm handsome. My skin is pale as a ghost, which always causes people to think they're being clever when they joke about me being a mortician. Ha. Ha. It's a respectable job. And there's always plenty of business, no matter what's happening in the economy.

I've thought about those on-line matchmaking sites. Have you tried one? I'm very suspicious of women my age who look like they're in their twenties. Do they look so scary now that they have to use pictures that are twenty years old?

There's the nicest cupcake baker over at Sugar Baby Cupcakery. She's cute and always smiling and she smells of strawberries and vanilla. I go by there every day. But she's probably only nice to me because I'm a loyal customer.

I read recently that young men have managed to avoid the pain and fear of rejection by texting women neutral messages like What are you doing this weekend? They haven't lost face if she pretends to be busy. If she responds No plans yet or Wanna catch a movie? then they've scored a date.

I don't know, though. How would you feel if a man texted you something like that?

11 comments:

  1. I would much rather hear something like, "Can I take you to dinner Saturday night?" Texts are easy to ignore. Besides, what if she texted back that she's not doing anything and you asked her out, and then she said she was busy *all* weekend? Ouch. Better to make the invitation specific.

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    1. You must be my age, Willow. Hmm, do you live in Virginia or the DC area?

      ~ Humphrey

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    2. Sorry, no, Humphrey, I don't live close to you. And shhhhh! There's this guy I really, really like, but neither of us has any time, ever, it seems. Does that sound like an excuse?

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  2. Hmmm.. Maybe find out what she like to do and then text her a little more specific message. "I have 2 tickets to .... this weekend - I know you like it. Would you like to go?" That way the pressure is off not calling the first outing a date and once you have spent time together you might feel more comfortable asking her out on an official date.

    I am so looking forward to this book and finding out how Sophie is doing!

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    1. I just saw Sophie. You'd think she would date me now that she's not seeing Wolf. Hey -- thanks for the idea, Susie!

      ~ Humphrey

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  3. Faint heart ne'er won fair lady, right?

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    1. I guess that's my problem. So that means I should have a bold heart and go after the woman of my dreams. Right?

      ~ Humphrey

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  4. Do you have small conversations when you make your purchases? Start there. Get to know her. Maybe you'll have something in common and then you can do the invite.

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    1. Hi, Dru! So far all we have in common is cupcakes. I like them almost as much as I like her. I know, I'll ask if she can recommend a place for Chinese food. Thanks for the tip!

      ~ Humphrey

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  5. If a man wants to date me he better pick up the phone. Texting is for kids, not proper date behavior. A phone call shows class and proper etiquette.

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  6. Lol, my dating days were before text messages existed. But it does feel safe, and if she likes you, she would text you back with an answer that indicates she is open to an idea to share some time.

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