Monday, July 6, 2015

Who Likes Change? @LucyBurdette #giveaway

By Hayley Snow from Lucy Burdette's Key West Food Critic mystery series

 


You know that old Chinese saying, Change = Opportunity? Ppfftt! I've never found change to be easy and rewarding. Maybe it started when I was ten and my dad moved out. In that one moment, my life went from Leave It to Beaver to The Parent Trap, only without the twin. And my mother fell apart a little too, so those days were hard. We did come out of that period stronger than ever, but I'm not going to lie--it was stressful at the time.




I have found ways to deal with change a little better--cake for one thing! Nothing in the world cheers me up more quickly than baking. As I'm beating the butter and sugar and vanilla and eggs and sifting in the flour, I feel like I'm one in a long line of women who've figured out that a fragrant cake shared with someone you love lessens any pain.

The other thing? Friends. I'm lucky that way. I haven't been in Key West that long, but I've got the best friends ever. Connie, who was my roommate in college, lives on a houseboat right up the dock. And Miss Gloria, my boatmate, what can I say? Picture a grandmother and an elf all mixed up together and you've got Miss G. 

photo by Carol Tedesco
I don't like watching her get trained to be a tour guide in the Key West cemetery though. That makes me worry that the biggest change of all is coming: Someone's going to die. My tarot-card reading friend Lorenzo feels it too. He's scared like I've never seen him...

One more change--my writer tells me I won't be a regular here on the blog anymore. I'll miss you characters so much! Keep in touch, okay? And I hope I'll be back to visit. Uh-oh, I feel a cake coming on....

How do you deal with change? Leave a comment and your email and you'll be entered in a drawing for a signed copy of FATAL RESERVATIONS!

Fatal Reservations, sixth in the Key West series, will be in bookstores tomorrow--July 7!  You can order it wherever books are sold.


63 comments:

  1. i don't deal with chance well, try to avoid it if I can then just have to deal with it with anticipation.
    jslbrown2009 at aol dot com

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  2. I've learned over the years that, for me, any large change requires a period of transition of about 3 months before I feel totally comfortable with the change. Knowing I'm in transition helps me to stay calm and look forward to acceptance.

    skkorman AT bellsouth DOT net

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    1. that is so smart--just reminding yourself that you're in transition--brilliant suggestion!

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  3. I don't deal well with change. I try though. I love this series, thanks for the chance to win! Dnrocker@yahoo.com

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  4. it depends on what's changing......I'm pretty adaptable...........
    thatnk you for the giveaway.......

    cyn209 at juno dot com

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  5. Change is inevitable. You just have to go with it.
    debby236 at gmail dot come

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  6. I would agree with others. We often don't like change but must deal with it when it comes. dbahn@iw.net

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  7. I don't deal well with change at all...I get anxious days, weeks, and months in advance...not good! robin.christofaro@yahoo.com

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  8. I seem to do well with change, but my family cannot handle it at all! I usually don't have much choice so I go with the flow!

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  9. All though change is inevitable, I don't deal with change well. I roll with the punches, but
    I like routine. It takes me a long time to adjust.

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  10. Like most of us I do not do very well with change. It takes a while for an old lady to get used to a change - large or small.

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  11. I don't deal well with change and it takes me a long time to adjust. The older I get ... the harder it is. peggyhyndman(at)att(dot)net

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  12. Not all change is a negative. I try to stay calm and open-minded.

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  13. It depends on what the change is. Good changes are always easier to deal with.
    sgiden at verizon(.)net

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  14. As a military wife, I had to deal with change whether I wanted to or not quite often. And unfortunately, I learned to depend on chocolate. Way too much chocolate. I also deal with stress by baking. So I guess I turn to cake, too. But back when my husband was active duty, I could bake and send the goodies to work with him. Now, it's just me and him - and there is no way two people should eat that much baked goods. :)

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  15. Not a big fan of change. When it happens, you just have to muddle through as best as you can.
    bpwoodfield@gmail.com

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  16. Change is hard but sometimes it works out for the better. Looking forward to reading Fatal Reservations. Take care.

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  17. I have learned the best think to do when change come is keep an open mind. It makes thing go a lot smoother.
    xzjh04@gmail.com

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  18. Accept what is inevitable and try to adjust. Life always is going to change. elliotbencan(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  19. Having a positive outlook and hoping for the best. saubleb(at)gmail(dot)com

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  20. Change happens. It's a part of life. You have to learn to go with it and accept what happens. Keep an open mind and learn not to stress about it. Sometimes change is good.
    scarleetbegonia5858@gmail.com

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  21. I am not good with change. I have to do it a lot with my job and have to work with it the best I can. centraleast2 at gmail dot com

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  22. Like rolling with the punches, you have to roll with the changes, and I always try to look at them as an opportunity (My Dad taught me that). I may not always be successful dealing a big change right off the bat, but I keep on trying because it's best to approach change with a positive attitude. (Sorry, lots of cliches!)

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  23. My life has changed so much that I'd like it to stay just the same for a while. Thanks for the giveaway! smmolloy1105@yahoo.com

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  24. I don't really like change. But if I can understand the reason for the change, I can transition myself to accept the new methods.

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  25. I don't really like change. But if I can understand the reason for the change, I can transition myself to accept the new methods.

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  26. I don't really like change. But if I can understand the reason for the change, I can transition myself to accept the new methods.

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  27. I don't like change, but accept it as best I can when it happens. Stressing it doesn't help. Great blog post!
    angelhwk68@yahoo.com

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  28. You do what you have to do. Period. Then you have a piece of cake followed by a nap...
    kpbarnett1941[at]aol.com

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  29. That is one cool looking cat!
    So, who's going to be taking over the blog? Curious minds want to know.
    libbydodd at comcast dot net

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  30. Most of the time, I just put my big girl panties on and just deal with it. Plus, lots of music. ��

    Kellijo23@gmail.com

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  31. I'm not always crazy about change but I've had a lot that were wonderful.
    kkdurban@gmail,.com

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  32. I go very little for change but i did make a big change at 48 moved from ca from my kids to ia and got married. So that was one of the biggest changes and it was good except miss my kids and grandkids so much. Although any other changes before that i have had to deal with such as a big one with my health etc. The book looks great and will be reading it in print its on my list!

    ptclayton2@aol.com

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  33. We love change! We like to move every couple of years (usually cross-country) change jobs, etc. Just the thought of change makes us smile. My husband and I are weird, aren't we? lol edith.patchan@live.com

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  34. I dont like change BUT it will happen no matter what...so I breathe deeply and remind myself I can handle anything and embrace it with a positive attitude...attitude is everything! 💖 wynter33@comcast.net

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  35. Change, I'm reminded, is an everyday life occurrence, but I don't deal well with change. Some changes are good: a new gooey special on the menu at your favorite restaurant, noisy neighbors replaced by quiet seniors, triple digit temps cooled by Delta breezes, everyday in the classroom left behind for retirement. But like an old dog...learning new tricks is hard. I get grumpy or melancholy or downright resistant... My dad is gone, diabetes concerns, retirement traveling has been postponed. Some say change is good for you; it keeps life interesting...I like boring. kat8762@aol.com

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  36. What? Not a regular on the blog anymore? I can't deal with it! nancy@arrowhead.lib.mn.us

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  37. The older I get, the less well I handle change. Thanks for the contest.
    suefarrell.farrell@gmail.com

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  38. I snuggle up with my dog until the feeling passes.
    cjreynolds52@comcast.net

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  39. I guess it depends on the type of change as to how I handle it. If it doesn't make sense to me I don't handle it well. Otherwise I try to handle it as a new adventure
    vernagass@gmail.com

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  40. I've had to deal with change for almost 70 years. The key is go with the flow.

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  41. There's nothing I can do about change so I just deal with it and move on. areewekidding@yahoo.com

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  42. I'm not a big fan of change. I do better with change at work than change in my "normal" life. Thanks for the chance to win! cking78503@aol.com

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  43. It depends on what the change is....if something breaks: I usually freak out then deal with it.....or I can be calm and deal with the situation...of course their is always the dealing with the issue and breaking down later bit LOL!

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  44. I admit that I do not like change. I guess few of us do. But I try to remember who is in control of the changes, and trust in Him. Thanks for the fun chance to win. rencw@verizon.net

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  45. Would love a chance to win this Mystery, it would be my first time. I L:ove Mysteries especially yours, thanks for the chance. Linda May.

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  46. I am not good with major changes but it helps to try and find the positive things about the change.
    jenne.turner@unt.edu

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  47. I have worked at the same place for almost 35 years where rules and regs change frequently so over the years I have learned to just go with it.
    Thanks for the giveaway.
    MarshaMysteryreader@yahoo.com

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  48. I know change is inevitable, but it's just hard....Thanks for the giveaway! I really enjoy the series. dmskrug3 at Hotmail dot com

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  49. I have been dealing with a lot of changes over the last few years. But that includes not having a kitchen of my own quite often. But when I do, I really enjoy trying new recipes! Thanks for writing this series and the chance to win the latest!

    ElaineE246 at msn dot com

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  50. I have a son who is autistic and doesn't deal with change very well at all. Because of having to have a life style that is primarily routine, routine, routine, I find it is a little hard for me when there is change. It takes me a while to adjust but eventually I get into the rhythm and deal with it. robeader53@yahoo.com

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  51. I'm OK with change if I can see it coming. It's the surprise element I do not like at all.

    marypres(AT)gmail(DOT)com

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  52. I have a hard time with change. The best thing for me then is to take it one day at a time. paddydee54@hotmail.com

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  53. I tell myself that change is a good thing and is exciting. It helps me get through the difficulties associated with something new. Bobbipad@gmail.com

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  54. I have trouble with some change, other changes are easier. I try to meditate and relax.

    kaye dot killgore at comcast dot net

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  55. I just keep plowing ahead. Panic a little, try to analyze. Then just put my head down and keep going. Cheers@MarjimManor.com

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  56. Sometimes change is a good thing, or we become too stagnant and set in our ways. kuzlin at aol.com

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  57. Change is very hard for me. After a few months, I usually feel at home with it.

    CarolNWong(at)aol(dot)com

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  58. I take change one step at a time.

    Kit3247(at)aol(dot)com

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  59. I used to deal with the stress of change, we were a military family, by baking bread. Nothing like punching dough to relieve a little stress. Now I have a bread maker and don;t get the chance to punch. Lots of other ways though to relieve that restless energy. Always have weeds in the flower beds. Now that it's harder for me to get around that, there is always music and a good book. Nothing like a good mystery to get your mind off the stressful things going on. lol, Maybe that's why I read so many books.

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  60. thank you all so very much for your thoughtful comments! Hayley and I wish you easy changes in the future. Barbara Hawk's name was drawn randomly for the book. And the lovely Diane Vallere and her characters will be taking over this spot on the 6th of every month. But we'll still be writing, so look for us on Facebook and Mystery Lovers Kitchen and Jungle red writers--and in bookstores! xo Lucy

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  61. Love mysteries, thanks for the chance to win!

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