Thursday, June 15, 2017

I’m so freaked out!



I can barely breathe.  I’m going to be a mother!  That’s right.  MEEEE!!!!
I told Lucky about it in A Clue in the Stew, well, she guessed anyway, but I was so scared, I wasn’t able to even talk about it. 

I just never really thought it would happen.  It’s not like we, me and my husband (and I still can’t get used to saying the word ‘husband’) didn’t want a family.  We did, we really did.  I just never imagined how the news would hit me.  

I’m just trying to get my head around it all.  The responsibility!  The stuff we’ll have to buy!  The sleepless nights everyone’s always told me about.  I used to laugh when people talked about it.  I’d think, well, it’s what you wanted wasn’t it?  So what are you complaining about?  Now here I am.  In the hot seat myself!  My truly single, alone in the world state, has vanished.  Well, Sage and I got married, that’s true, so I can’t claim I was alone, but bringing a child into the world is totally different, isn’t it?

Then there’s the baby name issue.  And by the way, I do NOT want to know if we’re having a girl or a boy.  It doesn’t matter to me.  I know we’ll love that little baby like crazy.  I think Sage is hoping for a girl, but me, it doesn’t matter, as long as that little tyke is healthy and happy and has all its fingers and toes.  I worry about stuff like that a lot. 

Oh, yeah, baby names.  If it’s a girl, I want to name her Letitia, after my best friend Lucky.  But she said if I stuck a little girl with that old fashioned name, she’d hit me over the head with a frying pan.  There’s one thing Sage and I agree on, if it’s a boy, we’ll name him after Sage’s brother, René.  I think that would be really neat, plus it’s a cool name. 

So, girl names . . . what should I pick?  I want to choose a name that no one else is using in this generation.  But it’s so hard.  Names seem to blow on the wind and capture everyone’s imagination at the same time.  I’m thinking Rebecca or Ruth or Naomi.  I just love Biblical names!  Sage doesn’t though.  He likes pretty feminine names like Juliette or Elizabeth or Laura. 

I don’t know what to do!  HELP!  Help me pick a name! 

You can read more about this latest chapter in my life in A Clue in the Stew.  (PS: My stomach wasn't really very settled then!)  

Oh!  And very important!  June is giveaway month at Killer Characters, so all you have to do is leave a comment on this blog to enter.  You can win a book of your choice.  Either one of the Soup Lover's Mysteries, if you've missed any of them, or my author's alter ego, Connie di Marco, is offering the first book in the Zodiac Mysteries (The Madness of Mercury).  So don't miss our month long summer giveaway!

You can learn about Julia Bonatti, my San Francisco astrologer at Connie di Marco's website, at Facebook.com/Connie di Marco (Author) and Twitter @AskZodia.  

And you can enjoy all the Soup Lover's Mysteries at Connie Archer's, website, at Facebook and Twitter @SnowflakeVT.  





83 comments:

  1. I'm going to have to side with Sage on the baby name debate. Juliette, Elizabeth, and Laura are all lovely choices. And I love the name Rene for a boy! Sorry I can't help more; I've only ever had to name cats! mbradeen@yahoo.com

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    1. Hi Marla - Cats count! Dogs too, and lots of people use human names for dogs! Good luck in the giveaway.

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  2. My daughter is pregnant, due on the 20th. She is naming her baby Kane.
    debby236 at gmail dot com

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    1. Congratulations, Debby!!! How wonderful! And I like that name. Thanks for stopping by today!

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  3. I like Rebecca, Elizabeth, or Laura. All are good names. Love this series. mcastor07@gmail.com

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    1. Hi Melissa - Thanks so much! And best of luck today too!

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  4. I think Zoe is cute girls name.
    xzjh04(at)gmail.com

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    1. I like that name too, Kiki. It's become more popular in recent years, but still not a name you hear every day. Good luck today!

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  5. Love to read any of these but especially The Madness of Mercury.
    If I had a daughter we were going to name her Avalon Skye. Perfectly mystical. ;-)
    Thanks for the chance. lady(dot)janel(at)hotmail(dot)com

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    1. Hi Janel - I like your name too! I'll note that you'd like The Madness of Mercury. The second book in the Zodiacs will be out soon. I'm looking forward to it!

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  6. Love your books. The names are special. Nadine, Miriam. saubleb(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. Great to see you here today! I like those names too! Best of luck in the giveaways Sharon!

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  7. Enjoyed your post greatly. I love classic names like April, Diane, Esther for biblical. Thanks for your lovely giveaway. elliotbencan(at)hotmail(dot)com

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    1. I always loved the name Esther. Another name I liked was Enid, apparently it's Old Welsh and means "dear soul." Isn't that a lovely meaning?

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  8. The process of trying to choose a name for a new baby is stressful. My advice to the character is to not overthink it too much. Thank you so much for the chance to win!!
    magicgirl2357@yahoo.com

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    1. Hi Abby - You're right. I think when the time comes, the perfect name is obvious. Good luck to you!

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  9. Oh both of these series sound great. Baby names...a favorite aunt or uncle or grandparent? Someone you admire? Lots of choices to make. Thank you for the chance. Sharon catwoman-1(at)Comcast(dot)net.

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    1. Hi Sharon- Names really do go in waves through time, both boys' and girls' names. And as an author, it's hard to choose characters' names too! Best of luck today!

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  10. I love coming up with baby names! We picked my oldest child's name from a tv show that we both enjoyed. I would agree not to stress over picking a name to much. The right name will come to you. acate9(at)utk(dot)edu

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    1. Absolutely right. I totally agree. I used to have a baby names book that was fascinating to read! Good luck in the giveaway!

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  11. Names seem like such a responsibility. After all, the kid is stuck with it forever!
    libbydodd at comcast dot net

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    1. Hi Libby - When I told my daughter some of the names I had been considering before she was born, she screamed. She didn't like any of them, but I'm glad she's happy with what I did pick!

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  12. I love the name Juliette. That's my daughter's favorite. My granddaughter is Elizabetta Sophia and my daughter's friend named her youngest Gwen. Good luck with those names.
    Meg85242 at gmail dot com.

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    1. Juliette is absolutely beautiful, so is Elizabetta and Sophia, not names you hear all the time. Julia is the name of my protagonist in the Zodiac Mysteries, and I liked it so much I just had to name her that!

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  13. I'm very partial to Emma, but also love Meredith, and if you want something to kind of tie in with Sage, how about Willow? Thanks for the opportunity to win a copy of one of your books! bobandcelia@sbcglobal.net

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    1. Wow! Willow is very unusual and lovely too! Best of luck today, Celia!

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  14. Why not use a biblical name and a name your husband chooses ? You both win. My mom let her mom name me,she named me Yvonne Elizabeth after Yvonne Decarlo and Elizabeth Taylor. Lol my grandpa didn't like it and always called me Diane.

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    1. Diane? That must have been confusing! I guess that was his choice, right? But Yvonne Elizabeth is a great name! Good luck today!

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  15. Baby names can be tricky. I think you'll be fine as long as you don't name a boy Sue lol. You are another new to me author so I'd be thrilled to win anything.

    suemngirl(at)yahoo(dot)com

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    1. Oh that's great, Sue, glad we could connect on Killer Characters! I loved Johnny Cash too! Good luck!

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  16. For a girl I'm partial to Emme or Emma & for a boy, Liam. turtle6422(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. I like Emma too, and I've found some babies named Ella, which is very pretty. We have Liam Neeson to thank for the popularity of that name, but I do like it. Best of luck, Jana!

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  17. When my uncle was born, the nuns wanted his parents to name him Pius after the Pope - fortunately, my aunt and uncle decided that Thomas would be better.

    jtcgc at yahoo dot com

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    1. LOL! I quite agree. What a terrible name to stick a baby with! That's a great story though. Best of luck today!

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  18. How about Rhoda? Your character can tell him it's Greek. It means Rose. AND. She doesn't have to tell him it's also Biblical. [Acts 12:13]. Shortly after my daughter Rhoda was born. The movie Rhoda came out. When she was a little bit older and started getting around. She didn't crawl. She scooted on her behind. So I started calling her roto-rooter. Not to long after that the ads for that plumbing service came out "Roto-Rooter" Needless to say. I stopped using that word. Sigh. I have not read any in the Soup Lovers Mysteries and would love to do so. Thanks for the chance to get one sooner. Rather than later. Della at deepotter (at) peoplepc (dot) com

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    1. Hi Della ~ thanks for stopping by! I really like that name -- Rhoda, and Rhona too. I have a friend whose middle name is Rhea and wasn't Rhea the original earth goddess? Great names! And best of luck!

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  19. Choosing names is very important. I do love very feminine names for girls.


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    1. Hi Mary ~ nice to hear from you! I guess Sage will get his way! Good luck!

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  20. If you're looking for actual suggestions, what about Eden? It's from the Bible, one of the meanings I found was delight (which a baby would be), and I think it's feminine. I'm not necessarily sure of some other name that works with both of your preferences, but please remember one thing. Even if you choose a commonish name, you can always spell it differently. Meg is short for exactly what most people think it is short for, I just spell it M-e-a-g-h-a-n. Thank you for participating in the month of giveaways. robbfan141729(at)yahoo(dot)com

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    1. Oooh, I like that. Eden, it's short but has a nice ring to it. Reminds me of Aiden for a boy's name. Best of luck, Meg!

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  21. Congrats on your good news. I think sometimes you pick out a name and then you see the baby or pet and you realize the name doesn't fit and another name will come to mind and ends up their forever need.
    diannekc8(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. I know what you mean, Dianne ~ maybe it's the baby who really chooses the name. Maybe by telepathy? Who knows? Best of luck today!

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  22. Congrats on your good news. I think sometimes you pick out a name and then you see the baby or pet and you realize the name doesn't fit and another name will come to mind and ends up their forever need.
    diannekc8(at)gmail(dot)com

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  23. Thanks for the chance. Maceoindo(at)yahoo(dot)com

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  24. Congratulations on becoming a Mother. I just became a grandmother, twice, in a 5 week period, last year. Thanks for the giveaway dbahn(at)iw(dot)net

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    1. Oh fantastic! How wonderful, Dianne ~ you must be so proud and happy! All the best today!

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  25. For girls I like the name Angela. I read THE MADNESS OF MERCURY and it was great--when will the next one come out in that series?
    suefarrell.farrell@gmail.com

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    1. Hi Sue ~ how nice to see you here! And thanks for stopping by. All Signs Point to Murder will be out on August 8th. I can't wait for it to see the light of day! That's #2 in the Zodiac Mysteries. Hope you get to enjoy it! And best of luck!

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  26. For a girl's name, how about Valerie? and I would love to win The Madness of Mercury. The zodiac mysteries are intriguing to me. Thanks for the chance to win! aut1063(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. Hi Autumn ~ Valerie's a great suggestion, but I really love your name! Maybe Sage will like it too. And I hope you get to enjoy the Zodiac Mysteries soon!

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  27. Congratulations!! How about Lily? That's my niece's name so I admit I am a bit biased. You could use a biblical name for her middle one--or vice versa.. I'd love to win a copy of Broth of Betrayal. Thanks for the chance to win.. salvatoresmom71(at) yahoo(dot)com.

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    1. Hi Amy ~ what a pretty name! I like that! So many great suggestions today! Thank you and good luck!

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  28. Good evening Connie! You're a new-to-me author so I would certainly love to win the debut book in your Soup Lovers series. I named my oldest daughter after the famed actress Maggie Smith and my youngest daughter after my husband's ex-girlfriend Drucilla. sxygrndma48{at}yahoo{dot}com

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    1. Drusilla? Your husband's ex-girlfriend? Really??? You're pulling my leg, right? Very funny! Best of luck, Sandy!

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  29. I just adore the Soup Lovers Mystery series. I am very unhappy that there will no longer be any more books in this series.
    As for girl's names, I think Suzanne or Meghan would be nice.
    agavigan@cox.net

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  30. Hi Annette ~ me too! But I'm so glad you could stop by today! Best of luck in the giveaway!

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  31. I never relly wanted to know what sex our kids were. Suprise after labor I guess. Hope I win. Thanks for the chance.

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    1. Oh, you're welcome. I felt the same, it didn't matter as long as they were healthy! Best of luck!
      PS: Send your email in a comment. Thanks!

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  32. Those babies are too cute...thanks for the chance.
    Marilyn ewatvess@yahoo.com

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    1. Aren't they adorable? I had lots of fun looking for baby pictures for this post! Best of luck, Marilyn!

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  33. Alice is a older name Allie is cute for short! I want to read a clue in the stew! Thank you!

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    1. Hi Donamae - thanks for stopping by, and good luck in the giveaways this month!

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  34. I'm partial to my granddaughter's name, Aubree. But I have always loved the names Loralei and Chantal for girls, also. Thanks for the great giveaway!
    eswright18 at gmail dot com

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    1. Hi Ellie - those are great names! I really love Chantal, not a name you think of every day!

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  35. I like names that have a nice nickname, and if a family name is used it is the middle name. That way - to my thinking - the baby can be an individual and not have anything/anyone they have to live up to.

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    1. That's something to think about. You wouldn't want to burden a child with family history, knowing it is one thing, but living up to is quite another!

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  36. Oops - forgot email - sorry!
    kpbarnett1941[at]aol.com

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  37. We named our children after relatives who have passed. It's a Jewish tradition to keep their memories alive. We didn't use the exact names, but names with the same meaning. Cheers (at) MarjimManor (dot) com

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    1. I have heard of that, Margo. And by the way, I've always loved the name Margo! It's a lovely tradition.

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  38. My daughter's name is Rachel Leigh. Our son who was thought to be a girl was going to be Rebecca Louise but when he came out a boy was named Rhett Lyndon. Much like my daughter I love the new trend to use unique names for babies. I love Dahlia, Poppy, Lydia, or to be exotic Chai or China. Babies are scary in the beginning especially if you have little to no experience with younger siblings or nieces or nephews but once they're yours you learn to go with the flow and just do your best. Thanks for the opportunity to enter this giveaway. robeader53(at)yahoo(dot)com

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    1. Hi Robin - You've brought up. Whole bunch of really unique names! I love Poppy, and Rhett and China, even India! Good choices!

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  39. Congratulations. Choosing a name is very hard and done, you actually have to see your baby and hold him or her to finally decide. Our daughter was named Amy up until the last few hours of labor and suddenly, Melissa was our choice! Our 3 three old granddaughter is Isabella and we call her by that name. Best wishes!!
    Connie
    cps1950(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. Hi Connie - All those names are lovely! And I always thing of Queen Isabella of the ?15th century when I hear that name!

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  40. Congratulations on your good news. I also like Biblical names. My 3 sons are Paul, Jonathan, and Matthew.
    I'm starting to like names like Sophie and Zoe. My new granddaughter is Madison Marie.
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    1. Hi Darlene - I agree. Biblical names for boys are really nice, even David or Michael or Noah, a name I've heard in recent years.

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  41. I Love the feminine names for girls. My Given is Meredith and I was the only one at the time so teachers weren't sure the first day if it was a girl or boy's name (Meredith Wilson-Music Man). I love the name Everleigh or Aleyna they're so melodic. Thank you for the chance to enter this wonderful giveaway! Merry Northstarvance@Gmail.com

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    1. I like that name too! Meredith has a certain gravitas, doesn't it? Not old fashioned, but very dignified!

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  42. Don't pick a name with a goofy spelling! Nothing too complicated-maybe think about favorite characters you've enjoyed.

    cozyupwithkathy @ gmail dot com

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    1. Hi Kathy - you bring up a good point about characters. Naming a baby's one thing, but choosing names for characters can be just as hard! Best of luck this month!

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  43. The perfect name would be Laurel! Thanks for the great giveaway! doward1952(at)yahoo(dot)com

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    1. Hi Doward - that's a good choice too, kinda reminds me of Willow, but I'll definitely add Laurel to my list!

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