Thursday, January 9, 2020

Resolutions?

by Tom Westhill from Jealousy Filled Donuts by Ginger Bolton

Two groups of regulars  meet in our coffee shop, Deputy Donut, weekday mornings. The retired men sit at one table and the Knitpickers sit at another. Their tables are close together, but I can't imagine them ever agreeing to sit together. Instead, they tease one another across the aisle.

January weather doesn't keep them away. On January second, I poured Curly's second cup of coffee and offered him another donut.

He patted his stomach. "I can't. New Year's Resolution."

He said same thing on January third.

I was a cop, a detective, and eventually the police chief here in Fallingbrook, Wisconsin. I know how resolutions, good intentions, and promises go, as in: "I'll never speed again, officer."

And now I own a donut and coffee shop with my late son's widow, Emily. I've seen how long people keep their dieting resolutions.

Emily thought  that Curly's resolution might last a week or two. I said he'd be eating second donuts by January sixth.

Curly kept his resolution until January eighth.

You probably won't be surprised to hear that I don't make resolutions.

But sometimes, I hear about people who are so wonderful that I want to be more like them, like the folks of Seal Beach, California. When one of the owners of Donut City became seriously ill, they banded together and bought the shop's entire output every morning to keep the shop from suffering financially and to allow the sick woman's husband to spend more time with her. You can read about it here.

I would never expect our community to do the same for us, but I know that they would. And I'm keeping the idea in the back of my mind, not to do the same thing, exactly, but to help wherever and whenever I can. And no, that's not a resolution.

Speaking of good things that happened around the end of 2019:


Ginger Bolton's JEALOUSY FILLED DONUTS made this list along with two (2!) books by Killer Characters Blogger, V. M. Burns: THE NOVEL ART OF MURDER and WED, READ & DEAD.

For a chance to win a copy of Ginger Bolton's JEALOUSY FILLED DONUTS, tell us in the comments below whether you think New Year's Resolutions are a good or bad idea, and why.

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37 comments:

  1. I don't do resolutions because I believe either you are already okay and don't need improvement or if you aren't it will take a lot more than a resolution to change. Thanks for the chance.
    ematov (at) comcast (dot) net

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  2. I have learned not to do resolutions. I never stick with them for long. I am who I am and at my age (50), I am not about to change. I tried them when I was younger and would last a few weeks before reverting back to my original habits. Thank you for a chance to win. Doodlesink(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  3. I don't make resolutions either. Bad for me because I just break them.

    marypres(AT)gmail(DOT)com

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  4. Resolutions are only good if the person making them, strives to keep the resolution. Many make resolutions only to follow them a few days or a few weeks and then go back to the old habits. dbahn(at)iw(dot)net

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  5. Resolutions are a good idea. I have resolutions every year I may not keep them but at least I try. Thanks for the chance
    Jess
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  6. i don't make them myself because I usually break them. But for some people I guess they are good as long as they are committed to keeping them. 1cow0993(at)gmail(dot)com

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  7. They are a good idea if you can keep them but I also think they sometimes put too much stress on people.
    debby236 at gmail dot com

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  8. I think it's a good idea to get people at least thinking about improvements. But if you don't keep it all year (or all month) it doesn't matter for most things. Love this series! ckmbeg (at) gmail (dot) com

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  9. Never! They don’t last longer than a week. Just try to live your best life.

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  10. I have never made resolutions. If they are kept that is great. elliotbencan(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  11. Making a resolution to me is just a way to bring to the forefront things I need to work on in my life. I really don't need to make them but it is a great reminder of what there is I would like to improve in my life. robeader53(at)yahoo(dot)com

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  12. I think resolutions set you up to fail. I prefer to set goals.
    turtle6422 at gmail dot com

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  13. I don't make New Year's resolutions. My goals are the same every year.
    diannekc8(at)gmail(dot)com

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  14. Resolutions are great for as long as they last! In my case about 2 weeks!

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  15. I don't do resolutions. I think you should just enjoy each day of life and follow your dreams and passions. Just spend time being you.
    marypopmom (at) yahoo (dot) com
    Maryann

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  16. I typically don't do new year resolutions since I try to change things when I need to, not just the new year. anajs95(at)gmail(dot)com

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  17. Resolutions are a good idea for people who want to adhere to them.
    They're not for others.
    libbydodd at comcast dot net

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  18. I love this series!! I think resolutions are always a good thing as long as they are flexible. It's more about a decision to make positive change then a strict goal for me. My whole famimy; me, husband, and two young daughters gathered at midnight and toasted (apple cider)to our resolutions!

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  19. Resolutions for the new year are good IF they are realistic.

    I’ve got two personal resolutions for 2020 that intertwine. The first one is to be the healthiest me I can be. Having several medical problems that the specialist and I try to maintain to give me the best quality of life as possible, I know I won’t be “cured”. However, I’m willing to do whatever is necessary to keep me moving and productive if it’s in my power. At the beginning of 2020, that means trying to lose weight – again, since moving around is increasingly harder due to bone and muscle pain, adjusting to yet another new diet since being diagnosed with yet another disease at the end of 2019, to keep walking (albeit with a cane when necessary) as much as possible and to stay as productive and active in daily events so as not to leave it all in the hands of my sweet and loving hubby. That brings me to the second one which is to continue to travel to see the wonders of the United States while I’m still able to go. We love photography and there is nothing that brings us more joy than to travel to see new sights, both landscape and critters, and to photograph them. To be able to do this I have to stick to number one and pray number two is achievable again this year.

    Thank you for the wonderful opportunity to win a copy of "JEALOUSY FILLED DONUTS" - a book on my TBR list that I'm dying to read.
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  20. I think it causes some people to assess their lives to date. Whether they make good decisions often affects them.
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  21. I don't do resolutions because they never work out. doward1952(at)yahoo(dot)com

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  22. Their probably good because at least a person would try for a while if it didn't last. Your book sounds like fun to read. Thank you for the chance

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  23. I've given up resolutions because they just make me feel guilty when I don't keep them and should probably be on my daily to do list anyway But I have chosen a word the past several years. This year it's Optimism. Rather than hoping for good outcomes I'm going to try to make the best of what I have now, look on the bright side so to speak.
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  24. I think using the word 'resolutions ' sometimes give people anxiety! I use the word 'goals'. Everyone should have goals, even small ones.
    I love this series 😊

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  25. I've never made one and so many people don't stick with it anyway. If it truly helps you focus on your goals and realize where your priorities are, then it can be a good thing. But if it just becomes a chore then it's not worth the stress. That said, even if you don't stay with it, a small change for the better, even for a short time, is still an accomplishment. Maybe next year's resolution is the same but you manage to keep it a month longer than before. Work up to a final goal.
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  26. I never make them because I never keep them! tWarner419@aol.com

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  27. Resolutions are usually short lived so I font even bother.

    I’m intrigued by this cozy series. The shop in the story isn’t run by the female character. Hmmm

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  28. I think they’re a good idea. legallyblonde1961@yahoo.com

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  29. I never make New Year's resolutions.

    jtcgc at yahoo dot com

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  30. I think resolutions can be beneficial as long as they are reflections on the past that can benefit the present and future.
    browninggloria(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  31. I like to make resolutions. They help to keep me on track with things.
    kkat(dot)edwards(at)gmail(dot)com

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  32. I think instead of resolutions, making goals is a good idea. Circumstances can change, so making a resolution in January may have nothing to do with your life in July.
    kimheniadis at gmail dot com

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  33. I think resolutions are good for those people with the will to see them through. I think they can be detrimental when people fail. I prefer to set goals and milestones.

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  34. I don't know anyone that has actually ever kept their resolutions for more than a couple of weeks. Why set yourself up for failure? I quit making them years ago. I have been much happier since then.
    lkish77123 at gmail dot com

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  35. Congratulations to Katie Hagen, the winner of a copy of Jealousy Filled Donuts! I've contacted you separately, Katie.

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  36. I usually don’t make them because I don’t keep them! Thanks for the chance to win!
    faithdcreech at gmail dot com

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